The Power of Learning to Say “No”

There was a point in my life when I often said “yes” to everything. Every work event, every social commitment, every time help was needed from me. Sound familiar? Often in our pursuit of living a fulfilled life, we find ourselves tired, overworked, and unfulfilled. Learning the power of saying “no” can be life changing. Here are some reasons why:

Saying no means:

• valuing your time and energy

• saying yes to things you actually prefer

• prioritizing your needs

• giving to yourself before giving to others

• showing respect for yourself

• putting yourself in a place of power over your priorities

• empowering yourself to be discerning over your decisions

Respectful Ways to say “no”

• Suggest an alternative: Offer up a commitment on your own terms.

• Don’t be overly apologetic. A simple, “sadly, I cannot…” or “I wish that I could, however…” is just fine.

• Be brief in your reasoning: No need for lengthy explanations or excuses. Be honest and concise in a friendly manner.

• Offer compliments and appreciation: Be sure to be genuinely thankful and complimentary prior to declining an opportunity.

• Be Confident: Confidence is crucial when setting your personal boundaries. By focusing on what matters most to you and respecting your own priorities, then you’re less likely to cave if and when pushed.

Remember, although it might feel uncomfortable at first, each time you say no, you are opening yourself up to more opportunities for yes. Yes to more self-care, yes to empowering yourself, and yes to creating space for the things that mean the most to you.